Being public about my spiritual journey the last 20 years, I get all kinds of crazy questions from fellow seekers. Stuff you can’t imagine, but stuff I love!
The single most common questions are about personal relationships.
As a person starts to explore and embrace God, The Universe, Divinity, The Self, The Divine Feminine, or any other buzz term that they encounter on their spiritual path, they start to feel that they have less and less in common with their chosen life partner.
Either their partner was there before their journey began, or isn’t doing the same work. This lack of ability to communicate in the same language can be frustrating, lonely, and leads many seekers to consider a change of partner. Some even see “their vibrations” at different levels and they become unsure of the relationship’s ability to last under these new circumstances.
These questions have helped many, I hope they help you..
- “Is your relationship truly abusive?”
(not perceived, but truly, and if so, who is really the abuser?) - “Has this person changed or did you change?”
- “Do you have children who need both parents?”
- “Do you need your partner to be on YOUR journey?”
- “20 years ago, did you care about what you’re doing now?”
The truth I try to reveal for these seekers is that the journey is evolutionary. When you get far enough through it, you won’t need anyone to change, join you, or share in your view.
There’s an old saying “Before enlightenment; chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment; chop wood, carry water.”
This saying reveals the most important fact for all seekers. The road may be long and winding, but in the end, you end up right back where you started, but with a new set of eyes to see the world from. Eyes that make everyone more beautiful. Especially your current partner.
Honestly, there were times on my journey when I felt the same as the seekers. It’s why I can empathize and help. In the end, it always comes back to the 7 mirrors. Rejection of our lover reveals a truth and acceptance level for those ready.
EVERY time I stopped “wanting” my lover to join me in my journey, she rushed to be by my side and to embrace our shared journey. Sure there were a few times when I did lay down an ultimatum to end toxic behaviors that were hurting her and us… but so did she and they were needed every time.
In the end, it was my desire to love my partner as they stood before me that resulted in the greatest growth. It was not events, meditations, practices or a shared belief. It was my belief in her and my love for her that resulted in my own healing and our relationship being able to reach a new level.
While this won’t happen for everyone, it is the right step before simply tossing a relationship to the side because “its low vibe”. After all, with the world as your mirror, the only low vibes are your own.